In one of my first “real” relationships, my then high school boyfriend– a popular jock– cheated on me with a White girl.
Then he broke up with me to make things official with her. It would be almost a decade until I found the answer to that question in a book called Is Marriage For White People.
While the books illuminated the statistics that helped me to better understand these issues on a macro, societal issue, I was long acquainted with the limited dating and marriage options black women have through personal experience.
Though Black men are still twice as likely as Black women to date outside their race, it seems more and more of us are becoming open to dating beyond the color line.Stories about the number of Black women who are single have made headlines for years, and many of us are tired of hearing them.But the reality often hits home during the holidays, when discussing your love life becomes an appetizer at meals with the family.To get you to start thinking about dating interracially," Weaver says warmly. I first came across the encouragements to go to Europe and "swirl" when I was a junior in college preparing to study abroad in Sweden."There are a lot of incredible men out there, yes, you know you want a brother. Though I cringe to admit it now, I was excited by the possibility of a semester spent flirting with Swedes.